This guide is intended to help initiate intentional and meaningful conversations as a first step in addressing anti-Blackness in immigrant communities. For more resources, visit Define American.
Throughout history, Black Americans have been systematically denied dignity, humanity, and justice. Even today, our customs, policies, and practices are deeply rooted in intolerance and cruelty. As strongly as we demand justice and equity for immigrants, we must also demand the same for Black Americans who face deadly and daily racism and injustice.
Real change begins with us. It requires us to first confront the ways that we ourselves have been complicit in anti-Blackness, and also have difficult conversations with our immigrant families about ways that it is pervasive in our own cultures and homes.
We cannot afford to tiptoe around this issue in the name of respect or deference. It is not possible to avoid conflict and be anti-racist. We have to make a choice. This moment requires courage. It requires us to take a stand for what is right.
Learn about the history and realities of Black people. White supremacy keeps communities of color divided by emphasizing the differences between us. Use history to remind your family that we are more alike than we are different and that this fight is about all of us.
Here are a few great places to start:
People can be reluctant to have a conversation about their own beliefs and behaviors. As you prepare to have this conversation with your family, it may help to start by watching a film or television show together. Pop culture often provides a social script for how we see and treat those around us. Use these stories to ease into the conversation. Commenting on fictional characters is low stakes, and your family may be more open to sharing opinions on the characters and their actions.
Recommended films and television shows:
NOTE: Be careful about consuming “Black” culture that is not controlled by Black creators. From music, art, and fashion to sports and entertainment, Black culture has become synonymous with American culture and is coveted all over the world. Black culture is often appropriated and commodified by non-Black creators in ways that perpetuate anti-Blackness, deepen health, economic, and educational disparities, and can contribute to premature death for Black people, particularly at the hands of law enforcement. If we consume and benefit from Black culture, we have a responsibility to center, uplift, and defend Black lives.
None of us is perfect. If we want to have a dialogue with our family about how they can be better, we have to be willing to admit the ways that we can be better as well.
Meet your family where they are. Was there a time when you believed a harmful stereotype to be true? A time when you used words that you didn’t realize were painful? Take into account your family members’ ages and lived experiences, but don’t be afraid to speak with young children about race.
We all have a journey that starts somewhere, and sharing how you came to recognize your own blind spots can help someone feel a little bit safer to share their starting point with you.
Perhaps we assume that our families believe one thing, and we may be surprised to learn that they believe something different. We need to ask questions and lead with curiosity. More importantly, we need to listen to understand instead of listening to respond or argue.
Some questions to ask:
Now that you have a deeper understanding of where your family stands on this issue and where they are coming from, make the connection between Black history and their own. For example, it’s rarely acknowledged in immigrant circles that the 1964 Civil Rights Act paved the way for the critically important 1965 Immigration and Nationality Act.
Refer to characters in films and television shows you watched to point out similarities or differences in what is being communicated. Pull from your own journey and recognize the experiences that helped you get to where you are.
Remember, this is not about winning an intellectual argument. It is about meeting people where they are, making them feel safe, and helping them reach a new understanding.
Once your family is able to understand racism through their own experience and history, it’s important to center and elevate the experience of the Black community.
Black Americans bear the brunt of racism, but racism hurts us all. It is the responsibility of us all to take action and fight back,not just today, but as part of our everyday practice.
Here are some actions that you and/or your family can take together to defend Black lives:
For more action ideas, visit Movement for Black Lives (M4BL).
This guide is intended to help initiate intentional and meaningful conversations as a first step in addressing anti-Blackness in immigrant communities. For more resources, visit Define American.